tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6973084986961701552.post1581979954714918538..comments2024-01-09T17:15:27.268+05:30Comments on black-and-white fountain: Custody by Manju Kapurblack-and-white fountainhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/08580690922447351876noreply@blogger.comBlogger2125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6973084986961701552.post-62854911491877727902011-04-07T11:17:34.929+05:302011-04-07T11:17:34.929+05:30Custody is the riveting story of how family-love c...Custody is the riveting story of how family-love can disintegrate into an obsession to possess children, body and soul, as well as a chilling critique of the Indian judicial system. Told with nuance, sympathy, and clear-sightedness, it confirms Manju Kapur’s reputation as the great chronicler of the modern Indian family.<br /><a href="http://www.uread.com/book/custody-manju-kapur/9788184001549" rel="nofollow">Custody</a>Dhaarna Guptahttp://www.uread.comnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6973084986961701552.post-18901610913176370142011-03-28T07:45:46.444+05:302011-03-28T07:45:46.444+05:30Hi Saaz,
Sometimes I get intrigued. This time it ...Hi Saaz,<br /><br />Sometimes I get intrigued. This time it was your use of "philandering wife ". That was the first time I saw it applied to a woman, so I went to check. There are some references that accept it for both genders; but the overwhelming consensus seems to be that it is applicable only to men who play around with women they do not intend to marry. When applied to a woman, it seems to indicate one who loves her man (husband). <br /><br />So then I check its etymology, and find it is a composite from two greek words meaning "to love" and "man" http://www.oxforddictionaries.com/definition/philander?view=uk. And from there I went to look at philanthrope, and found it the archaic term for philanthropist, meaning to love a human being. The relationship between a philanderer and a philanthropist? I love these little excursions.<br /><br />I couldn't find a word that applies for similar behaviour in women. Is that telling of the prevalence of partriarchy and patricentricity? Of course, there are other words (adultery, unfaithfulness, infidelity, etc.) that are applciable to both sexes, but I couldn't find one that applies exclusively to women. I excluded polyandry, since that has a different connotation.<br /><br />Words, words, words. (What did Eliza Doolittle say, exactly? Same place where there's that beautiful song "With a little bit of luck" where we encounter the p-word).<br /><br />Warm regards,<br />Mathew.. on the Malayalee !!https://www.blogger.com/profile/06042133892442555132noreply@blogger.com